It finally happened. You get to go on a first date with someone you like. At first, you’re all hyped up, your heart is racing, and you can’t wait for you two to meet—and then it hits you. You have to make a great first impression. You start feeling self-conscious and anxious.
Don’t worry, social anxiety is a common problem among people today, and chances are your date feels anxious, too. That means that the ball is in your court, and it’s up to you to make the first date as pleasant as possible. Here’s how you can do it.
These tips will help you prepare for your first date
1. Get Some Conversation Starters Ready
The conversation might go smoothly, but you should have some topics ready to avoid awkward silence. It doesn’t mean you should frequently check your phone for ideas.
Prepare everything in advance, while you still have time to think. For example, think about where you met your date. If you two met in a club, consider asking your date what they think about it.
Ask them to recommend another club they like and discuss why they like it. The same goes for other locations—libraries, beaches, gyms. Who knows, maybe you’ll have a second date there.
2. Listen More
Listening to your date is equally important as being able to maintain a meaningful conversation. Show that you’re interested in what the other person is saying by asking questions and responding intelligently.
Don’t forget to say something about yourself, but don’t make yourself the topic of discussion. Both of you should be able to talk and be heard. Awkward silence happens sometimes, and that’s fine as long as it doesn’t last too long. If it does, go back to the advice number one and choose a different topic.
3. Be Yourself
In the era of fake life on social media, people often want to be something they’re not. You want to present yourself in the best light, but you might get sidetracked and forget that you’re pretending. That would be especially problematic if you presented yourself differently on social media.
The key to solving this problem is to find balance. You can wear the same clothes you wear on your Instagram pictures, but don’t fake your personality. Remember that not everyone will like you, and that’s okay. By being genuine, you have more chances of going on a second date.
4. Questions You Can Ask
You can save some questions on your phone and play a little Q&A game with your date. The questions you can ask are:
- Would you like to be famous?
- Is there anyone in the world who you’d like to invite to dinner?
- How would you describe your perfect day?
- What is your most treasured memory?
You can tweak these questions to fit your date and your personality. Don’t forget to think about the answers, too!
5. Talk About the Second Date
The point of dating is to decide if you’re right for each other and if you can reach those relationship goals. If you liked your date, talk about the possibility of going on a second date.
You can do this while on the first date or later, over the phone. If your date likes you too, it’s a win-win situation. If not, don’t take it too personally. After all, you don’t want to go after someone who would only waste your time.
The first date should be a fun experience. It should help you get to know each other better and decide if you want to be in a serious relationship. Even though the first date can cause anxiety, you can reduce the tension by preparing some conversation starters beforehand.
Don’t make it all about yourself, and listen to what your date has to say. If all goes well, suggest seeing each other again for another fun date.